Dennis Thoennes, Ph.D., ABPP, Psychologist

About Therapy

At this time I provide psychological services primarily to adult individuals, couples and groups. Periodically I offer one or multiple day workshops.

Why Therapy?
People come to see me primarily to improve the quality of their life or for help with a problem. You may have similar interests. Life may be going along ok for you but you may find it's fitting like shoes that are not quite the right size. Or, like others, you may have a pebble in your shoe that is making life increasingly miserable.

When?
Perhaps now. Simply deciding that, "I deserve to have a life that is working well" is a great difficulty for some people. So if I can get on my own team I could be more happy and successful.

Resources:
Sometimes we believe we would be happy if we only had more material wealth. In some cases this is very real and true. More often the solution is more likely to be found in identifying and resolving the burdens we carry and becoming an ally rather than adversary of ourselves.

Challenges:
I believe the second greatest challenge we ever encounter is being a true friend or intimate partner with someone. Each of us comes to a relationship from our own set of life experiences. We come with needs, hopes, ideas about how aspects of life "should" or "should never" be. When two people with sets of beliefs, thoughts and feelings intersect they see aspects of one another that are amazingly wonderful and others intensely painful, scary or frustrating.

The greatest challenge each of us has is developing and maintaining an intimate relationship with ourself. To be on my team, consistently here to simply care, being compassionate, constructive, and patient, understanding, and forgiving is tremendously challenging. This is a life long process.

If you would like assistance with these challenges, to build your resources and create solutions you have come to the right person.

WARNING!
To engage in therapy is to commit to opening your eyes, your mind and your heart. It is engaging a process of change. As we change how we see ourselves, see others and events we bring about changes in how we feel and what we want. If you want your life to remain the way it is do not proceed to therapy. Return to your status quo.